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What is AA, exactly?

If you want to keep drinking, that’s your business.
If you want to stop, that’s our business.

Are you an alcoholic? Only you can decide.

Admitting you might need help, or admitting that you’re an alcoholic, takes courage. There are a lot of resources that may help you decide whether AA could be right for you. You don’t have to do this alone! We can help.

Self-Assessment

Only you can decide whether you want to give A.A. a try – whether you think it can help you. 

Below are some questions we tried to answer honestly.

1Do you lose time from work due to drinking?
2Is drinking making your home life unhappy?
3Do you drink because you are shy with other people?
4Is drinking affecting your reputation?
5Have you ever felt remorse after drinking?
6Have you gotten into financial difficulties as a result of drinking?
7Do you turn to lower companions and an inferior environment when drinking?
8Does your drinking make you careless of your family’s welfare?
9Has your ambition decreased since drinking?
10Do you crave a drink at a definite time daily?
11Do you want a drink the next morning?
12Does drinking cause you to have difficulty sleeping?
13Has your efficiency decreased since drinking?
14Is drinking jeopardizing your job or business?
15Do you drink to escape from worries or troubles?
16Do you drink alone?
17Have you ever had a complete loss of memory as a result of drinking?
18Has your physician ever treated you for drinking?
19Do you drink to build up your self-confidence?
20Have you ever been to a hospital or institution on account of drinking?

Did you answer YES more than once or twice? If so, you may be in trouble with alcohol.

Why do we say this? Because thousands of people now in the rooms of A.A. remember a time when they could answer yes to many of these same questions. But those days are now in the past.

Again, only you can decide whether you think A.A. is for you. Our program does not promise to solve all of life’s problems, but we can show you how to live more manageable lives, without drinking, “one day at a time.” 

You’re not alone. Meet others who have had a problem with alcohol.

Speak to a sober alcoholic 24-hours a day. 804.355.1212

We have volunteers here to help answer your questions.

A Few Things to Know About AA

What is the goal of AA?

We have but one singular focus: to stay sober ourselves and to help others who may turn to us for help in achieving sobriety.

We are not reformers, and we are not allied with any group, cause, or religion. We have no wish to make the world stop drinking. We do not recruit new members, but we do welcome them. We do not impose our experience with problem drinking on others, but we do share it when we are asked to do so.

What types of people go to AA meetings?

Within our membership may be found people of all ages and many different social, economic, ethnic, and cultural backgrounds. Some of us drank for many years before coming to the realization we could not handle alcohol. Others were fortunate enough to appreciate, early in life or their drinking careers, that alcohol was already unmanageable.

What type of trouble do I need to be in to go to AA?

The consequences of our alcoholic drinking have varied. A few of us had become indigent before turning to A.A. for help. Some had lost family, possessions, self-respect, or even their homes. Some of us had even been hospitalized or jailed. We had committed grave offenses — against society, our families, our employers, and ourselves.

Others among us have never been jailed or hospitalized, nor have we lost jobs or families through drinking. Regardless, all of us had finally come to a point where we realized that alcohol was interfering with normal living. When we discovered that we could not live without alcohol, we, too, sought help through A.A.

Is AA the only way to get and stay sober?

We do not think we are the only people who have the answer to the problem of drinking. We know that the A.A. program works for us, and we have seen it work for every newcomer, almost without exception, who honestly and sincerely wanted to quit drinking.

Through A.A., we have learned many things about alcoholism and ourselves. We try to keep these facts fresh in our thinking at all times because they seem to be the key to our sobriety. For us, sobriety must always come first.

Is AA anti-alcohol?

No, A.A. is not “anti-alcohol”, and we have no wish to reform the world. We are not allied with any group, cause, or religion. We welcome new members, but we do not recruit them. 

What does AA not do?

Among many other things, AA does not:

  • Engage in or sponsor research
  • Keep attendance records or case histories
  • Join “councils” of social agencies
  • Follow up with or try to control our members
  • Make medical or psychological diagnoses or prognoses
  • Provide drying-out or nursing services, hospitalization, drugs, or any medical or psychiatric treatment
  • Engage in education about alcohol
  • Provide housing, food, clothing, jobs, money, or any other welfare or social services
  • Provide domestic or vocational counseling
  • Accept any money for our services or any contributions from non-A.A. sources
  • Provide letters of reference to parole boards, lawyers, court officials, social agencies, employers, etc.
Some Things To Know About AA

How It Works

Literature published by A.A. World Services, Inc., is available through Richmond Intergroup. These books and pamphlets are resources for recovering alcoholics and other individuals. In our materials, you can find out more about Alcoholics Anonymous, its history, and how it works. 

Frequently Asked Questions

Can I bring my family to an AA meeting?

Family members or close friends are welcome at “open” A.A. meetings as observers. Meetings labeled “closed” are for people who consider (or are considering) themselves alcoholics. 

How can I find a meeting?

The most updated list of our area’s meetings can be found on the Meetings page. 

How long will the meeting last?

All A.A. meetings are one hour in length unless otherwise noted in the meeting listing.

Why are so many meetings in churches?

A.A. does not own property. Our meetings are located in various places throughout your community, such as churches, community centers, municipal buildings, and hospitals – in other words, spaces large enough to hold a meeting – but we are not affiliated or aligned with these hosting locations.

What if I see someone I know at a meeting?

If you see someone you know at a meeting, remember that this is an anonymous program. You should afford them the same level of privacy and confidentiality that you would expect from them. We have an old saying that “who is seen here and what is said here stays here.”

Why is there so much emphasis placed on going to meetings?

Put simply, none of us have found a way to stay sober on our own. Helping each other and newcomers helps us stay sober. It’s truly that simple. When you look around at your first meeting, consider that every person you see had to walk into their first meeting when they were getting started. We know exactly how you feel, and we had the help of people who were already A.A. members before we got here.

If I have questions after I go to a meeting, what should I do?
The simplest thing to do is simply ask the person seated next to you, or approach the person who chaired the meeting. If questions occur to you later, you may call our hotline at 804 355-1212.
What are AA Meetings like?
An A.A. meeting may take one of several forms, but at any meeting you will find alcoholics talking about what drinking did to their lives, their relationships, and their personalities; what actions they took to help themselves; and how they are living their lives today.
Do I need to sign up in advance or pay a registration fee?
No, and no. We are an anonymous fellowship, so we do not keep a list of names. There are no dues or fees to attend our meetings. Just select a meeting, show up on time & take a seat.
Do I have to say anything at a meeting?

Not at all; in fact, you may want to simply observe and listen to get an idea of what we do and how we recover from alcoholism. Some meetings ask if there is anyone attending their first A.A. meeting, and it would be nice if you would introduce yourself with your first name, but this is not a requirement. We want you to be as comfortable as possible at your first meeting.

If I go to a meeting and don’t like it, what should I do?
Try a different meeting! Each group is autonomous, so each has its own way of conducting a meeting.
If I need to have proof that I attended a meeting, how is that handled?

Since we do not keep attendance records, if you require proof that you attended an A.A. meeting you must bring paperwork with you that can be signed or initialed by the person who led the meeting discussion. This will be done for you at the end of the meeting. Also, you will want to search for “Open” meetings under Type of Meeting. “Closed” meetings do not sign this paperwork as a general rule.

How do AA groups pay for things like coffee and other supplies if there are no dues or fees?

We are self-supporting, meaning we exist and operate solely through the voluntary contributions of our members. You will see a collection basket passed around at meetings. When you attend your first meeting, it is not expected that you will contribute. If you decide to start attending our meetings, a couple of dollars in the basket will help us be there for the next person seeking help.